90 Questions For Couples To Reconnect

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Ahead of ‘What are we having for dinner?’, there are a few other things you need to discuss with your partner. Living in this dynamic life, you two probably spend most of the time away from each other, considering your work and other daily routines, it’s essential to reconnect and find the spark back. One of the most meaningful ways to do so is using our date night questions to reconnect! 

  • Reflection;
  • Enhancing the relationship;
  • Memories and adventures;
  • Intimate life;
  • Final words;


To improve and reconnect in a relationship, the first step is getting to know your partner and their personal growth over in-between years. The questions you’ll find right below touch on important parts and make you two talk about things you love and hate, by all means.

  1. Did any of our conflicts ever help you discover anything about yourself?
  2. Have our experiences together helped in your personal growth?
  3. Can you share with me one moment that has challenged your perspective?
  4. What was your favorite movie as a child?
  5. If you went back to when we first started dating, is there any advice you’d give to younger you?
  6. What do you love most about home?
  7. With this year ending, what’s something you’ve learned about yourself in this last year?
  8. What hobbies of yours do you wish you’d had more time for?
  1. What kinds of things make you feel the most loved?
  2. Do you ever compare yourself to others?
  3. Did our relationship change any of your beliefs?
  4. How did your idea of love change after being in a relationship with me?
  5. What are you most anxious about in your life right now?
  6. Depending on you, what makes a human, human?
  7. If you didn’t do what you do today, what’s another career you’d pick?
  8. What is the happiest you’d ever felt and what was the reason?
  9. What do you value most in other people?
  10. If you could go back in time and freeze in one age, what age would you pick?
  11. Do you think you have to feel pain to know love?
  12. Have you made any changes in your habits because of our relationship?
  13. What’s your earliest memory?
  14. If you’d be described in one word only, what word would you like people to describe you with?

Enhancing The Relationship

Once you already know every little detail about the love of your life, you might start talking about stuff that enhances your relationship. They’re just like rapid-fire questions, but with a very specific objective: make your relationship the healthiest it has ever been! 

  1. What values of us do you think bring us the most together?
  2. What do you say is a challenge we went through that made us stronger? 
  3. Do you think that at any point, couples’ card games had a positive impact on our relationship?
  4. Is there anything you have hesitated to discuss with me lately?
  5. What immediately reminds you of us?
  6. What could we do to add more excitement to our relationship?
  7. How do you envision our future as a couple?
  8. What is the best relationship advice you’ve gotten from someone, and has it helped our relationship in any way?
  9. What’s one thing I do that makes you feel stressed?
  10. Depending on you, what are the top 3 aspects of a successful marriage/relationship?
  11. Is there any part of you that you haven’t shown to me yet?
  12. What qualities do you think set us apart from other couples?
  13. Do you think we handle conflicts the right way?
  14. What are your top 3 goals for the future of our relationship?
  15. What are your biggest fears about our relationship?
  16. Is there any song that describes our relationship the best way?
  17. 5 years from now, do you see us married? 
  1. How do I inspire you?
  2. If there were a book or movie about our relationship, what would its title be?
  3. How has your definition of love changed over the years?
  4. What is something you appreciate about me, that you haven’t mentioned in a while?
  5. Do you think we both contribute equally to our relationship?
  6. Is there any time you didn’t feel heard or seen by me?
  7. Do you have any idea about a couples tradition we could start, just for the two of us?
  8. Do I make you feel like a priority when we’re out with other people?
  9. Out of us two, who do you think is more forgiving?
  10. Do you think we need to support each other’s personal growth more?

Memories And Adventures

When things go wrong, all you need to do is remember the good ones and share all the lovely memories that indeed put you two closer. If you wish, you might take a glass of wine in your hands, and turn it into a drinking session of questions, just like Truth Or Drink

  1. What is your favorite picture of us and what makes it special?
  2. Go back in time. What was I wearing on our first date ever?
  3. Do you remember the moment you realized you were in love with me?
  4. Which significant milestone of us are you most proud of?
  5. What was the last time we laughed uncontrollably together?
  6. Can you name something we did together that always puts a smile on your face?
  7. Is there any type of crazy adventure you always wanted to try with me?
  8. What is your favorite date night of ours to this day?
  9. What activity makes you feel closest to me?
  10. If we could pick a place on Earth to live in, without any circumstances, what would you pick? 
  11. What is one trip we must definitely take? 
Trip A Couple Must Take
  1. Have you ever thought what your favorite honeymoon destination would be?
  2. Is there any present you’ve received from me that you secretly hated?
  3. What is the most special thing I ever did for you for a special occasion?
  4. What’s the first thing on your bucket list?
  5. Is there any memory that has taught us something about our relationship?
  6. What is a small detail about me that is stuck in your mind forever?
  7. Do you think our personal achievements have affected our relationship dynamics?
  8. What is the most heartwarming thing I did for you?
  9. Do our individual experiences and memories improve our connection in any way?
  10. Do Never Have I Ever questions help us know each other better?

Intimate Life

It’s finally time to ask some other deep questions. But in another dimension. This list of questions is all about your intimate love life, and things that should be discussed in relationships, so you know how each other feels, and what would make them feel more loved. 

  1. On a scale from 1 to 10, how would you rate French kissing?
  2. Are you happy with our current sex life?
  3. What is your favorite memory of us being intimate?
  4. If you had to pick one color to represent our intimate life, which would you pick?
  5. What is one fantasy you haven’t shared with me just yet?
  6. To this day, what’s your favorite place we did it?
  7. Do you prefer kissing or cuddling?
Kissing Or Cuddling
  1. What is your guilty pleasure in the bedroom?
  2. What’s your favorite time of the day to make love?
  3. Do you think intimate life has a big importance in our relationship?
  4. Have I ever made you feel embarrassed when making love? 
  5. What’s one thing I do that never fails to turn you on?
  6. Do you think I have any unreasonable boundaries?
  7. What’s your favorite part of your body to be touched?
  8. How have our intimate experiences changed from when we first met?
  9. What is one thing you want us to try in bed?
  10. Do you ever daydream about me?
  11. What outfit do you think I look hottest in?
  12. Would you like us to try stripping games?
  13. What would you say about our first intimate experience?

Final Words

No matter if you were having some struggles going on in these last days, or you just want to get as close as possible to your spouse, these reconnecting questions for couples lend a hand. Each is well-thought-out, deep, and lets you express everything. Also, there are four categories to choose from, so, another big pro! 

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